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Why Rejection Should Be Your New Bestie

Rejection is by far one of the worst feelings out there. You apply for your dream job, do your research, network with current employees, and nail the interview. But when you go to open your email, instead of a congratulations email you receive a “we regret to inform you…” message. Cue the rain clouds, gut wrenching, and Mary J. Blige.

THE EASIEST WAY TO IMPROVE YOUR LIFE: POSITIVE THINKING

Originally published on SheLeadsAfrica.org   Picture it: Monday morning. You sit in traffic for 45 minutes just to go 10 miles. You pass your  work place as you head to a parking lot which is 5 blocks south of your office block because the usual lot  is full. As you pull up, you glance at the clock and you are now 3 minutes late; despite waking up early and leaving your house 10 minutes ahead of schedule. As you walk out your heel gets stuck and as you try to save the Jimmy Choo, the heel breaks. On your walk into work, you’re reminded that the country you live in just elected a cartoon character to be its next president (I live in the U.S., if you couldn’t tell). You walk into work, someone looks at you and allows the door to slam in your face. As if that was not enough for one morning,  you get to your desk and your co-worker calls you by the wrong name. Now, as your irritation increases, you …

To Gift or Not to Gift

This post was originally published on Adolescent.net. The holidays are among us and that means Christmas shopping. For those of us into social interaction and friendship, this usually means every December you brave retail lines in pursuit of gifts. As you grow older, it also seems like Christmas lists get longer with gifts for people you actually want to give presents to and those you feel obligated to give to. If you’re on the fence about whether or not you should spend your money on certain people, this guide will help clear things up. Your best friend’s new husband/wife that you may or may not be fond of. Sure they’ve broken up several times. There may have been a moment of panic before your friend walked down the aisle too. But your friend loves their significant other, and by default, so should you. HOWEVER, that doesn’t mean you have to spend your hard earned cash on them, or does it? The deciding factor: Is there a chance the new husband/wife will be getting you a …

How I’m Dealing With This Election.

Alcohol. I mean, how could you not. Once I realized Hilary wasn’t going to win last night, I needed something to help me sleep through the night.  A great playlist. On my way into work, as I passed a “F*ck Trump” sign spray painted across Los Angeles City Hall fear set in. My stomach was immediately upset because things are changing and its terrifying. Once I arrived to work, my coworkers looked like zombies. After Hilary’s concession speech, I felt myself tearing up. By the time my coworker started comparing the United States to Germany and Iran I had to draw the line. So I grabbed my iPod and listened to my newest playlist. 3.Talking about it… In moderation. It’s always helpful to talk about things that bother you. But I learned today, that when you talk about a touchy topic too much you start stressing yourself more. I was upset before work, but after my coworker started coming up with all of these “end of the world” scenarios I had to remove myself from the conversation. 4.Positive …

When to Ask for A Raise and How to Actually Get It.

We’ve all been there. Working a job where your hours are 9-5 but you end up putting in 9-10 to show your commitment. After several months of putting in extra hours, covering for your absent coworker, or simply realizing your value you’ve decided your wallet deserves some growth. If you’re on the fence about asking for a salary increase, do a little self evaluation to determine if now is the right time to ask. You’re in good standing with your boss. A couple of weeks ago my friend told me a horror story about someone who asked for a raise. This guy showed up to work late, took excessive time off, and wasn’t even with the company a year! That is a prime example of when not to ask for a raise. However, if you and your boss are close, why not capitalize on your positive relationship? If you’ve noticed some extra pep in your boss’s step or she’s treating everyone to lunch, this might be a good time to jump on the opportunity and talk …

I Seem To Have Misplaced My Passion.

When I was in first grade I wanted to be a fire fighter. In second grade I wanted to be a marine biologist. By the time I reached middle and high school I wanted to be a broadcast journalist, TRL host or 106 & Park host. Fast forward to today, if you asked me what I want to be I’d respond “Successful” *cue Trey Songz ft. Drake*. It seems like when you enter college you’re forced to decide what you want to be and after you do there’s no turning back. Unless you want to spend 8 years in school with hundreds of thousands of dollars in debt, if you’re on Financial Aid like the majority of college students. More recently, however, I’ve found myself working with little passion.  I wake up and hit the snooze button to put off sitting in traffic to sit at a desk for nine hours, but I do because I need that pay check. I want a job where I choose what time I show up. I want to work on projects that make …

My Top Favorite LA Ice Cream Spots

Up until I became an adult (so about a few months ago) I’ve always said ice cream was my favorite food. The inner child in me still has a soft spot, literally, for ice cream. So it doesn’t hurt that Los Angeles has several amazing ice cream spots that put a twist on the typical  scoop.  Here’s my top 3: 1. Jeni’s in Los Feliz. The mission statement on Jeni’s website reads “We are absolutely devoted to making better ice creams and bringing people together.” That’s pretty much my life motto (sort of.) The first time I went despite being known for lines out the door, it was totally empty and the guy working encouraged me and my friend to try as much as possible while we could. Despite the employees being super friendly, the ice cream is no fuss and the ingredients are premium (they have an Intelligentsia Black Cat Espresso flavor.) Also, since the flavors are so good, they don’t force you to choose just one.  Jeni’s offers an option to do two half scoops instead of one. My …

How I got through: Losing a loved one

I think a lot of people tend to internalize hurt because it’s easy.  As we all know, it’s easier to not think about things that upset us instead of facing things head on.  Of course, this concept isn’t new but I figure I’d vent a little. I lost my aunt (She’s the gorgeous lady in the featured image. That’s me with the duck rain coat) in June 2015. The specifics dates I purposely didn’t remember because who wants to wake up on June whatever and remember that…but maybe that’s my issue…I digress.  She had cancer. I’ve experienced death before with both of my grandmothers, but not quite like this.  There’s something especially troubling about losing someone when you don’t expect it.  My aunt was in her late 50s. My particular issue with “dealing” with this loss is that it lingers.  Almost like a lingering headache that you can tolerate mostly but every now and then its stronger than usual. Just like a headache, pain has its triggers.  For me, it’s hearing my mom discuss her sister or …

How I survived my first nude spa experience

Don’t get me wrong, I have nothing against being naked.  But, there’s something particularly intimidating about being told to disrobe in front of a room full of women including your two closest friends who’ve never seen you naked. The plan was to go to Wi Spa in LA off of Wilshire and Rampart for a relaxing girls night prior to my best friend’s wedding in two weeks.  We were referred by a friend who was anxious to go but unfortunately had to work the Friday night we made reservations. For anyone in the LA area, I would definitely recommend this place.  Their prices are great and the buff + massage treatment is heavenly.  Michelle has the hands of an angel!  Anyway, after 20 years of friendship, we left our swimsuits in our lockers and bravely entered the shower and tub area. Now on to the next challenge.  Once we jumped this major friendship hurdle I had to come to terms with being naked in front of all these strangers.  As I boldly threw off my robe and headed over to …